Now, if you've opened this post, you're one of two things: You're either a husband/wife with a partner problem, or you're just curious to see what type of idiot would even think it would be safe to call their wife a dragon!
Well, no need to panic! I think I'll take my chances with this one!
To be clear, this is not a guide to resolving your marital issues, and it is also not a quick-fix solution on how to have a happy married life. If there were such a thing, the divorce rate would be zero! No, this is just my tongue-in-cheek look at marriage in general, and a few tips on how to make it a worthwhile adventure - even after many, many years!
I guess I get to speak from some authority, having been married now for 14 years. I know it's not the longest time ever, but I feel it's long enough to have survived those tough early years and to have a tiny bit of experience from which to speak! You know what I'm talking about... the early year arguments over other women/men, or leaving the toothpaste cap off, or the toilet seat up... the "ironing out" stage of marital bliss. And later on, the "7-year itch" as they call it, which frankly neither my wife nor I experienced, so I think that one is just an urban legend. :)
I really only have this to say: Married life is not easy. Co-existing with another human being in every single way for the next however many years is not going to be easy. Having children, paying bills, surviving in partnership with someone... it's not easy! It never was, it never will be! If you're under the impression that its going to be sunshine and roses for the next fifty years, think again! However, and this is the important part - it's not SUPPOSED to be easy! Women, men, wives, husbands, children - they're not robots or mimes or cardboard cut-outs... they're souls with feelings! They're wild and free-thinking! They're emotional, excitable, unpredictable and unbreakable! They're... well, dragons!!!
That's right! We're all dragons in one way or another, with our mood swings, crazy ideas, tics and obsessions! Once you understand this, you begin to realise that wanting to train another dragon is just a stupid idea! Probably the most stupid idea in the world. Would YOU want to be trained? Would you want to be changed? Is the dragon that is trying to train you any different to you in your most basic form?
Be content with the choice you made when you first met your other half. They were good enough then, why should it be any different five, ten or fifty years later? Remember why you fell in love with your dragon in the first place, and keep stoking that fire! If you really want to "train" your dragon, the only real way is to stop trying to! Love and respect them for what and who they are instead, and they will train themselves!
Of course, if they ever cheat on you, abuse you, break you down or make you feel any less than the dragon you are and were always meant to be, then feel free to kidnap a princess and frame that fucker for it! :)
I use a lot of dragon-training experience in my novels, which you can always get at Smashwords for any digital reader! Stay cool and most importantly, stay YOU!
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